What do the following phrases sound like to you?
· Youʼre fired!
· I want a divorce.
· Youʼre not what weʼre looking for.
If you answered rejection, you’re correct. Rejection is a clear sign that a door has closed, but more than that, rejection tells us that weʼre not where we need to be. It could also mean we are supposed to grow in a particular area.
No form of rejection is easy to digest, especially when our pride is hurt. And unfortunately, if we never get past our wounded pride, it will be impossible to make a dignified transition after the rejection. It’s okay to feel, but take special care not to brood or babysit your feelings for too long. And, make it an extreme priority not to get caught in negative thought loops. Some of us will replay rejection over and over in our minds, as if the outcome will change. The outcome’s still the same after replay #1,076. Don’t get stuck—move on with your life.
Here’s a profound truth. Personal rejection has no bearing on the projection of your or my purpose. We get to determine our self-worth and lifeʼs purpose. The person or people who rejected us don’t get to make those determinations for us.
Here is the good news. A door is supposed to close. Yes! While it may not sound encouraging or motivational, it’s a powerful truth. I mean think about it. A closed door leads us to pursue the next door to open.
When was the last time you felt like a door was closed in your life? Did you focus on the rejection or the reward of it? Our most recent story of rejection goes like so. Thirteen years into her career, my wife accepted a promotion with her company that required us to relocate across the country. In support of her, I quit my firefighting career and we took the leap. Four years after the move, the door slammed shut. In December 2017, my wife was let go from the company where she’d faithfully worked for 17 years. Talk about a cold Christmas. Ouch! I don’t tell this story to garnish sympathy, but to share about the rugged beauty of life.
For us employment was the safest route - until it wasnʼt. Perhaps this rings true for some of you as well. My wife’s job had been both a crutch and a tool. I say a crutch because it falsely propped us and stifled growth in our lives. However, it did turn out to be just the tool we needed. The company’s rejection of her gave birth to our business—the awaited dream of entrepreneurship.
Rejection is never easy, but we have two ways to respond: 1. Wallow in self-pity. 2. Find the next door and win on purpose.
I’ll take what’s behind Door #2 please. What about you?
Perhaps, you’re stuck behind door #1. Shop our site specifically for the spirit/soul affirmation deck…use them daily and before long, that record of rejection will stop playing on repeat in your mind.