On December 1, 2017, I whipped my dusty black Camaro into a parking space outside our office building as I had many Fridays before. I’m well into my work routine…when [ping] an emailed with the subject line “Lakisha Fox_Termination_12/4/2017…” hit my work inbox. It’s shortly after 9:00 am. I don’t flinch. I’m determined to remain poised. I’m waiting for my boss to show up at my office door, extend a handshake and give a heartfelt spill thanking me for my 16, almost 17 years of service. Hours pass and nothing. I invite my husband to lunch to tell him the news. I get back to the office. I act normal when I join my peers in the conference room. I open my laptop to log in and my credentials have been revoked. I was finally summonsed to management’s office around 1:30pm for “the talk.” By now I’ve had a few hours to gather my thoughts. The going-Madea-on-them scenario that I played out in my head over lunch didn’t end well. (Just kidding).
Seriously, by now my thoughts really amounted to…
What had I not done?
Is there anything I could have done to change the outcome?
Ooooohhhh…I’m about to get my lawyer on the line.
Almost 17 years of service came down to a twenty-minute discussion full of facades, formalities and non-specifics. When I walked out of the office, I was convinced that there was nothing more I could have done. My time was up. [Explosion]
“You have one hour to pack your things.”
I took four. What? What were they going to do, fire me?
Let me tell you...[bring your eyes up as close as you can to your computer screen]…
Great Life lesson #1 from CA: When you’re at someone else’s place of employment, you’re at their mercy. He who holds the power of the pen, holds the power. Period.
Great Life Lesson #2 from CA: When all is said and done, all you have is your immediate family. Treat them well. Don't sacrifice them for a job.
Management made the decision to fire me. It took me 13 days to finally cry about it. I found a comfy place on my son’s bathroom floor and I let it all out. I cried because the days leading up to the 12/01/17 explosion, I felt powerless, I could see the writing on the wall. I cried because I felt like I had let my family down (I was blazing a fiery trail for generations to follow). I cried because I felt as if I had failed. I felt wronged. In the loss, I felt as if a heavy burden had lifted from my chest, though replaced by a slightly lighter burden of how are we to pay the bills. My husband, a stay-at-home dad, home-schooled our son...so no income to speak of.
Well, at the time of this writing, 8 months have passed since the firing. Our bills are paid. Most importantly, we are gearing up to launch Driven. My husband has his debut book out for peer reviews and he is on chapter 19 of his 2nd book.
I said all of that to say this…
So what they fired me? This is one Calfire with a happy ending...we found purpose.
Being without work has led to more fulfilling work.
I now get to use what I’m naturally good at to help others!
My words of encouragement to you: If it feels like an explosion is taking place in your life, ready yourself to fight the fire and rise from the ashes victoriously. It might be painful, but look for the positive. You can turn any negative situation into a positive one if you so choose. Everything starts in the mind.
Will it be tough? Heck yeah! And? Decide to be a better person because of what you go through…turning bitter hurts you in the end. Although December 1, 2017 was set to be my termination day, I've coined it my redetermination day. I’m more determined now than ever to make a difference in the lives of others and to continue to lead a life of impact.
Lastly, positive affirmations helped me through my rough patch. I shared with the hubby that if they were helpful for me, then perhaps someone else would think so too. From the discussion between he and I came the concept of Driven. We spent several months ironing out the details, including the name.
Driven-us.com is set to officially launch September 2018!
In the meantime, I want to share 3 powerful affirmations with you that really spoke to me during this time. I can't stress enough the importance of right thinking. Enjoy and thanks for listening!